Procrastination is a killer…
It kills your productivity.
Prevents you from being your best.
Stymies your creativity.
and so much more.
Many will tell you they are happy with where they are in life. A person might tell you that it’s out of their control, or
it’s the lot that life has handed them. Maybe you will hear them say, I’m too busy and don’t have the time.
You get the point. I’ve used these and others myself. So I speak from experience.
None of this is true…
The truth is all of this is nothing more than excuses to deflect the real reason.
Procrastination is nothing more than an attempt to hide your fear…
You may be thinking, “I’m not afraid of anything”
But, reality is you are.
Fear comes in all kinds of shapes and sizes…
Here are just a few…
Afraid of failing
Fear of letting you family down
Concern of what your friends might think and say.
Afraid of success and what that will mean.
It could be that you are judging yourself against others.
I could never do that, I don’t have the knowledge…
the talent, or skills.
Any of these are stirring in your subconscious and holding you at bay. You may not even realize it, but at least one of these has a hold of you and preventing you from truly putting your all into your life.
Guess what, everyone has had to overcome doubts at one point or another. Actors, singers, speakers and just about anyone you can think of has had these thoughts.
The difference is they pressed on even though they had their doubts. They didn’t allow that inner voice of negativity prevent them from pushing forward.
You can do this too.
I can only speak for myself, but let me share with you how I have been able to overcome procrastination.
There came a day not too long ago that I realized that I was letting my dream slip away. For me, I want more than anything to have financial control of my life. Make sure that my wife and I didn’t have to depend on Social Security as our primary source of income.
As you get older, you start to have a different perspective. You realize that life has an expiration date; we just don’t know what it is.
It was at this point that I decided that the worse that could happen was nothing changed. I might fail at what I was trying, but otherwise I would be where I was when I started.
I decided that what I wanted to do for my family was more important than suffering setbacks. Who cares what anyone else thinks, it’s just their opinion anyway.
This has led me to make changes. To put myself out there and risk failure, risk ridicule or anything else that would happen.
What I am not willing to risk is reaching my final days and look back and ask, “What if?”
I don’t want to reach the end of my life and feel like I didn’t give it my all. That I was too afraid to try.
This is my success, I have overcome procrastination because life is too short. It doesn’t matter how young or old you are. You don’t know what your expiration date is.
My advice to you is to live every day like it’s the last and put it all on the line. Find that something that is more important to you than all the fears you may have. Push on and make this your defining moment.
Let me know your thoughts, leave a comment below.
Sometimes you may feel like you are on an island…
I know I do.
Then there are those moments when out of the blue when you least expect it someone, an acquaintance or a friend that reaches out to see how you are doing.
It is in those moments when you realize you are not as alone as you may think.
That person takes the time to make sure that you are OK.
Offers a helping hand or some encouragement.
Recently, I was in a funk and was concerned about whether I was doing the right thing.
It was at a time when I was considering walking away from it all.
I had set a goal for myself at the beginning of the previous year to rollout a product I had been working. It would be a defining moment and the beginning of creating my own economy.
Well, what I had set as a goal fell to the wayside as the year progressed. The longer the year went, the further away it felt.
I had a couple of setbacks that caused internal pain and lead to me ultimately abandoning that lofty goal on the side of the digital road. When the year ended I was disillusioned, disappointed and defeated.
I don’t normally talk about people directly, but I want you to know that Steven Alvey, a person that I met last year and have only interacted with a few times is that person.
I had responded to a Facebook post of his and he responded to me privately. He told that i already have what I was referring to in the post. It is the coaching program we are both.
Now he could have ended there, but alas Steven asked me if I had launched my product yet. The answer was NO. This started a conversation that has led me to renewed vigor and purpose.
I won’t go into the details but suffice it to say, I gained new clarity on what I needed to do.
If you have been online for any length of time, you will see marketers tell you “IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT”.
Well, I’m here to tell you the truth…
YES, that’s right – it’s your fault. Live with it, if you don’t, you will never get to where you want to go.
So here I am telling you that I had that person reach out to me just a few days ago. It was totally unexpected, but greatly appreciated.
I promised myself that I would eliminate the negativity from my thoughts and move forward in a positive way.
Sharing this with you.
You are probably wondering why I am saying it is your fault, right?
You see everything you need you already possess. The problem is you don’t believe it yourself.
I speak from experience…
When it comes to working in my current occupation, I challenge myself every day to learn more, to be the best I can be at what I do and have overcome many things that most would have never tried.
That’s not to say I am anything special… Believe me, I’m not.
I just had a passion, a commitment to myself that I would succeed. I was committed to a change of direction in my life and I knew that somehow that it was going to happen.
And it did…
So, at the end of the previous year when I looked back at the goal I had set, but didn’t reach.
Didn’t I have the aptitude?
Was I too old?
Beyond my reach?
Am I following the wrong program?
I could go on, but you get the point.
Well, the more I questioned myself the easier it got to think negatively. I’m a very positive person, but this was draining me big time.
It would have been easy to walk away defeated, but something inside kept me going.
Well, I’m here to tell you the conversation that I had with Steven couldn’t have come at a better moment.
I am grateful for the time that he spent with me.
So, it’s time to start to share with you how this has changed my thoughts and ultimately the way I will go forward.
First, I know for a fact that there is nothing in this world that I can’t do if I put my mind to it.
Look back at all the things you have accomplished in your life to date. It doesn’t matter if you are 15, 25, or 65. There are tons of things that you have been successful at if you just think about it.
You learned to walk and talk. Learned to tie your own shoes. You graduated from school. You got a job… The list goes on and on.
I’m laying out a game plan of steps, not huge goals, but small goals that I can accomplish each week that will give me that winning feeling that we all need.
Small successes lead to bigger successes and ultimately your goal.
Look, there are tons of books on goal setting and positive attitudes. They are great, but they aren’t going to do a lick of good if you aren’t able to see the light of day.
I’m going to be writing an article about how I am going to take what I considered a failure and turn it into a success story. When I look back this time, I will see struggles that I overcame and successes that propelled me forward.
If you want to find out what I am planning and how you can too. If you want to see what I am going to be doing to make that change of direction, sign up to receive my latest updates.
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